1. OVER-EFFORTING: THE PEASANT’S APPROACH
Listen up. You know what’s the most PATHETIC thing I see? Men who think they need to STRAIN to meditate.
Let me break this down for you. When I want a woman, do I CHASE HER? Do I BLOW UP her phone like some desperate PEASANT? NO. I create a life of such HIGH VALUE that women are DRAWN to me. They CHASE ME.
Your mind works the SAME WAY. Only BROKE BOYS think they need to FORCE concentration. When you’re a TOP G, pleasure NATURALLY flows to you because you understand how the game is played.
Look at any CHAMPION fighter. When they’re in the zone, are they TENSE and FORCING it? NO. They’re RELAXED. FLUID. That’s when they deliver the KNOCKOUT BLOW.
Here’s the truth: Meditation is like SEX. The harder you TRY to reach the goal, the further away it gets. A virgin TRIES HARD to last longer and comes in two minutes. A TOP G stays relaxed, enjoys the process, and can go ALL NIGHT.
Every time you STRAIN in meditation, you’re broadcasting to the universe: “I’m a DESPERATE LOSER who doesn’t understand how power works.”
2. MISUNDERSTANDING CONCENTRATION: THE MATRIX DECEPTION
The MATRIX has convinced you that “concentration” means SQUEEZING your attention like you’re trying to CHOKE someone out. That’s why 99.9% of men FAIL at meditation.
Think about when you’re watching a beautiful woman walk by. Are you FORCING yourself to pay attention? Are you STRAINING? NO. Your attention is NATURALLY drawn to her.
REAL concentration is like that. It’s EFFORTLESS. It’s MAGNETIC.
When I’m driving my Bugatti at 250mph, am I FORCING myself to focus on the road? NO. I’m NATURALLY absorbed because the experience is so CAPTIVATING.
The BROKE BOY tries to GRIP his attention like he’s afraid it’ll run away. The TOP G creates an experience so COMPELLING that attention STAYS of its own accord.
This isn’t some spiritual NONSENSE. This is how CHAMPIONS think. Ask any pro athlete about “the zone.” They’ll tell you it’s not about FORCING focus. It’s about allowing yourself to be PULLED IN completely.
3. LACK OF AGENCY: THE SLAVE MINDSET
Most of you sit on your meditation cushion like SLAVES waiting for someone to tell you what to feel. “Is this jhana? Am I doing it right? Please validate me!”
DISGUSTING.
A TOP G takes OWNERSHIP of his experience. He EXPERIMENTS. He TESTS. He LEARNS.
When I built my business empire, did I wait for someone to VALIDATE every move? NO. I took ACTION, saw the RESULTS, and ADJUSTED.
You think successful people got where they are by following some RULEBOOK? They BROKE the rulebook. They tried something NO ONE ELSE was doing.
If your meditation isn’t working, try something DIFFERENT. Try meditating LYING DOWN. Try it after a COLD SHOWER. Try focusing on your BREATH instead of a phrase. Then try the OPPOSITE.
Every time you ask “Am I doing this right?” instead of TESTING IT YOURSELF, you’re choosing to be a SLAVE rather than a MASTER of your own experience.
The MATRIX wants you DEPENDENT on teachers, on validation, on external approval. A TOP G needs NONE of that. He KNOWS what works because he’s done the EXPERIMENTS himself.
4. UNDER-EXPLORING OR UNDER-COMMITTING: THE WEAK MAN’S DILEMMA
Pay attention. There are TWO types of LOSERS in meditation:
The first LOSER jumps from technique to technique like he jumps from girl to girl. Never MASTERING anything, always chasing the next SHINY OBJECT. This is how BOYS behave.
The second LOSER does the SAME BROKEN technique for YEARS, getting NOWHERE, but too STUBBORN to change. This is how FOOLS behave.
A TOP G knows when to EXPLORE and when to COMMIT.
It’s like building a business. First, you EXPLORE the market. You try different ANGLES. Different APPROACHES. But once you find what WORKS, you COMMIT FULLY. You SCALE.
In meditation, spend a few hours EXPLORING different scaffolding techniques. Find what gives you a PLEASURABLE FEELING most RELIABLY. Then COMMIT to that.
But here’s where most of you go WRONG: Once you’ve found your technique, your EXPLORATION should shift to how you RELATE to the feeling, not jumping to a new technique.
Ask: How can I ENJOY this more? How can I RELAX more deeply? How can I get more CURIOUS about what’s happening?
The WEAK explore but never commit. The STUBBORN commit but never explore. The TOP G does BOTH at the right times.
5. BELIEVING JOY REQUIRES A “GOOD” REASON: THE POOR MAN’S TRAP
Most of you believe you need a REASON to feel good. “I’ll be happy when I get the Lamborghini. When I get the girl. When I make the money.”
That’s why you’ll ALWAYS be POOR in spirit. You’ve OUTSOURCED your happiness.
Let me tell you a SECRET that the COMMON MAN will never understand: Joy is a SKILL you develop, not a REWARD you earn.
When I feel joy, do you think I need a REASON? I create it ON DEMAND because I’m a MAN who’s mastered his own mind.
Look at any BILLIONAIRE who’s still MISERABLE. Look at any HOMELESS MAN who’s CONTENT. The difference isn’t CIRCUMSTANCES. It’s MASTERY of mind.
The MATRIX has convinced you that joy comes FROM THE OUTSIDE. That’s how they CONTROL you. Making you CHASE external validation like a dog chases its tail.
A TOP G knows joy comes FROM WITHIN. He can generate it at will, which means he’s INDEPENDENTLY WEALTHY in the most important currency: his own EMOTIONAL STATE.
Every time you wait for a “good reason” to feel joy, you’re behaving like a BEGGAR waiting for scraps, when you could be DINING like a KING whenever you choose.
6. THINKING MEDITATION IS ONLY WHEN YOU SIT QUIETLY: THE AMATEUR’S ERROR
You think meditation is what happens when you SIT on a CUSHION for 30 minutes?
That’s like thinking you’re only a BUSINESSMAN when you’re sitting in a MEETING.
A TOP G is meditating 24/7. When I’m driving my Bugatti, I’m aware of my state. When I’m closing a deal, I’m aware of my state. When I’m with a beautiful woman, I’m ESPECIALLY aware of my state.
The MATRIX wants you to think meditation is this SEPARATE activity from the rest of life. That way, any benefits STAY on the cushion and don’t TRANSFORM your actual existence.
Look at any ELITE performer. Are they only practicing their craft during “practice time”? NO. They’re ALWAYS refining, ALWAYS aware, ALWAYS improving.
When you shower, can you feel the water with TOTAL PRESENCE? When you eat, can you taste EVERY FLAVOR? When you walk, can you feel EVERY STEP?
These aren’t HIPPIE questions. These are the questions of a man who understands that MASTERY happens ALL THE TIME, not just when you’re “meditating.”
The AMATEUR separates meditation from life. The TOP G turns his ENTIRE LIFE into a meditation.
7. USING RELAXATION TO MAKE NEGATIVE THINGS GO AWAY: THE COWARD’S RETREAT
Most of you use “relaxation” as a way to HIDE from what you don’t want to face. You’re not relaxing. You’re RUNNING AWAY.
A COWARD uses meditation to ESCAPE reality. A TOP G uses meditation to EMBRACE reality so completely that he TRANSCENDS it.
When fear arises during meditation, do you SUPPRESS it? Do you try to “relax it away”? That’s what a WEAK MAN does.
A TOP G says, “WELCOME, fear. I see you. I feel you. I EMBRACE you.” And in that embrace, the fear TRANSFORMS.
It’s like in BUSINESS. When there’s a PROBLEM, do I ignore it? Try to make it disappear? NO. I FACE it HEAD ON. I SOLVE it. I GROW from it.
Every negative emotion is a MESSAGE from your system. When you try to “relax it away,” you’re acting like a CEO who throws away IMPORTANT REPORTS without reading them.
TRUE relaxation isn’t about MAKING THINGS DISAPPEAR. It’s about CREATING SPACE for everything to exist without RESISTANCE.
The COWARD relaxes TO AVOID. The TOP G relaxes TO INCLUDE.
8. SUBTLY ENGAGING IN SELF-CRITICISM: THE LOSER’S LOOP
Listen closely. If you’re internally CRITICIZING yourself during meditation, you might as well be PUNCHING yourself in the face while trying to sleep.
“I’m not doing this right.” “I can’t focus.” “I’ll never get this.”
This self-criticism is for LOSERS who don’t understand how the mind works.
When I train fighters, do I stand over them saying, “You’re TERRIBLE! You’ll NEVER get this!”? NO. I say, “Good. Now do it BETTER. I know you CAN.”
Your mind responds to DIRECTION, not CRITICISM. Every time you criticize yourself, you’re WEAKENING your own power.
This isn’t some SOFT, SNOWFLAKE mentality. This is TACTICAL. This is STRATEGIC.
The most DANGEROUS men I know are not the ones who HATE themselves. They’re the ones who have UNWAVERING faith in their abilities while still seeing exactly where they need to IMPROVE.
Self-criticism is for the WEAK who’ve been programmed by the MATRIX to keep themselves down. Self-DIRECTION is for the STRONG who understand that you can acknowledge a weakness without BECOMING that weakness.
A TOP G says, “Interesting. My mind wandered. Now I’m back. Let’s continue.” Not, “I’m such a FAILURE at meditation.”
THE ULTIMATE TRUTH
Here’s what separates the TOP 0.01% from everyone else:
They understand that the mind is a TOOL to be MASTERED, not a MASTER to be OBEYED.
When I say “What color is your Bugatti?” I’m really asking: “What LEVEL of MASTERY have you achieved over your own mind?”
Because a man who can’t master his THOUGHTS will never master his REALITY.
The BROKE BOY is a SLAVE to his mind. The TOP G is the MASTER of his mind.
Which one are you?
Meme generated courtesy of Claude 3.7 translating a section of Jhourney’s meditation instructions.